To "Be real": You are so right. And the fact that she is spending the kids' money shows her own selfishness toward her own children. Im sure that everyone here can agree that kids arent stupid - they know Jan killed their Dad. Regardless of what she wants to believe. I worry about the long term psychological effects on the kids, having to live with their father's killer. It's crazy how long this is taking to go to trial. I hope that when she is found guilty the court requires her to liquidate whatever properties she has in her name (and im sure there are some) and reimburse his estate for all the legal expenses she has drained from it.